Thursday, July 9, 2009

The Bridge From Solitude

Just like you mistook lust for love, you have mistaken being alone with loneliness. So I'm fine. Thank you for asking.

23 comments:

marie clare said...

hey iain,

it's pretty hard to believe you are writing this for no one in particular. it's so specific it sounds so real.

Me said...

It wouldn't be real if I was writing for no one in particular. Which is why I write for someone. And anyone can be someone.

Anonymous said...

iain, let me borrow this. have to send it to him.

Anonymous said...

ditto

Shandra E...*the misses said...

=D

i can smile with pure joy!!! I love that you said this..so many people are lonely in a room full of people and i find myself to be in the greatest company when ALONE!! so this was just perfect!!

GeorgeDubya said...

Amen to that one Iain.

Liz said...

i can only say just this thing:


THANK YOU!!!!


this is so real and liberating.

i'm positively rolling with laughter right now.:))

Anonymous said...

Yeah. It's hard to reel it in with you; maintain composure. I just want to shout it on the rooftops, and we've really just met. But at the end of the day, it's all about balance. So I'll play it cool. Thanks for keeping it in perspective.

carlyles said...

I guess...

I don't know. Maybe I'm not fine.

Anonymous said...

I'm alone by choice.

samantha said...

oh gosh. i so can relate to this post. and i totally agree with marie clare its really hard to believe so. beautifully written though. (:

vonyd said...

I love my own company even when not alone.
I feel safe and clear-minded.
Beautiful post!
Thanks.

Maro said...

I think i'm alone, i choose this, it's hard, but i know that good times will come soon.

BaggieSue said...

I really feels this... wow!

Alison said...

For years I've been saying that I'm the best company I could want, people think I'm strange but some others get it. I'm more likely to feel lonely around others.

Anonymous said...

I feel my loneliest around other people.

MoraSue said...

My long-time boyfriend and I just broke up. We were that couple that was just so happy and in love it made you want to puke. But when it went bad it went BAD and now that its over I am on my own and so free and even more happy now than when I was with him because now I see that our relationship was lustful and selfish on both sides. To a degree, we were together because we were afraid of being lonely. I'm so much happier now.
Thank you for this Iain. You've put weeks of my journaling and feelings in a succinct few words.

Anonymous said...

Love is a DECISION. LUST is but one MOTIVATING FACTOR in making the DECISION TO LOVE. The more motivating factors a couple has and maintains, the stronger the Love. Love can exist without LUST. Lust is a desired factor for couples that want sexual intimacy.
Lust, therefore, cannot be confused with Love. A decision to Love based on Lust alone can be a weak one, but it can still be Love and thru time other motivating factors can be added and maintained to make the Love stronger. My personal opinion is that Lust should not be the primary motivating factor for Love, since Lust is, for me, the most short term of all motivating factors.

BronxRebel

floreta said...

amazing message. and picture :)

Juniper said...

curious

Stephanie said...

I was just talking to a friend on the phone, and I couldn't find the right words to explain exactly what you've written here. It was nice to have a place to direct him towards, nice that someone else had the words.

Thanks.

Anonymous said...

Being alone is just another way to protect yourself. try to live

Anonymous said...

if you live with sarcasm, this is a lie..