Wednesday, September 5, 2012

The Ships Pass As Swans

If you ever find yourself looking at the person next to you and wondering if you can do better, leave.

Because they can definitely do better than you.

22 comments:

Anonymous said...

That seems a little drastic to me. We all take time to realize exactly how much we can do, and also what is expected of us, when with someone. Whether that be at work, or in personal life.

Jou said...

I love this.

Anonymous said...

clearly, you've never been married.

Anonymous said...

no, he's not being harsh at all.
he's damn right!!

Rox Dab said...

Yes, this is true. And we all have to accept that fact and just do whatever we can to the best way we can.

Anonymous said...

In some situations this could be true. But what if the person is abusive? An addict whose habits do you harm? Someone who takes the love you give for granted no matter what you stay by their side through? I've experienced such things and I did wonder if I could do better. And I could.

Anonymous said...

See I really don't agree with this at all. (I do respect your opinion of course!) But I just think that it is natural to wonder if we can do better because we all have our own ambitions. Wondering if we can do better than the person next to us is simply a symptom of having fears about our own futures.

Anonymous said...

Idk about work, life, and other social relationships. But I took this in a romantic sense as in the person next to you is your significant other, and if I'm correct in this then I 100% agree with you. <3

FeverDream said...

i wondered this once, so i left.

it was right, even though it hurt to walk away, it was right. he was happier. i was happier. because truth be told, that look meant i wasn't in love.

Anonymous said...

And you could, you could do so much better. Many have wasted their breath on me, all in vain with so much shame. They lock me up, throw me in the mental wards and forget. Deny my truth and eat away at my emotions. Under a microscope of disgust and distrust. Accused of things I've never done, set up by those I considered close. I can't promise that my sickness wouldn't infect you as well, so the advice I lend is to keep your distance. You asked for my version of events and I gave it to you, played it out for you. I hope I've left you with no more questions. We probably will run into each other again one day and if we do I'll just smile and wave. I just wanted a friend, but they always want much more from me and when I've given all I could and blow another fuse like I do, I repeat the process. I'm the loneliest person you could ever meet and that's why most stay away. Not a pity party, a reality party. See ya around...

Alejandra said...

There wasn't anyone next to me. I just had a mirror and yes I wondered quite often if I could do better than the reflection looking back at me, so I left her. You were right, I feel brand new.

Anonymous said...

don't put so much thought into it.

it's not in terms of abusive relationships or things of that manner, everyone knows someone could do better than someone who treats them an awful way, usually except for the person being abused.

it's about not appreciating what you have when you have something great, like what you have isn't enough.
you decide that you can do better, and you leave, losing the best thing that ever happened to you because of your own insecurities.

once again You, perfect timing.

Anonymous said...

Obviously this does not apply to married couples with years behind them. After 18 years I know I could never do better, nor would I want anyone to filll my Wifes shoes.

Of course we have had many ups and downs and at times I've thought "I don't need this shit, I can do better." As we are now living through mid-life, career changes, health problems and adult children with life issues and children of their own. I now know I did GREAT!!! I am blessed.

If you love someone, but think you can do better. Make your choice. If you walk away and find you choose wrong. I hope for your sake they take you back. Arragance and love don't mix. LOVE HUMBILY!

Anonymous said...

'We probably will run into each other again one day and if we do I'll just smile and wave'.
Will you hug me too, the way you used to do before you decided to leave.
Because those moments are the most peaceful ones of my life to date.
Because I have been searching high and low but never felt that kind of peace again.
Peace like life. Or like death.

Anonymous said...

I've never found myself looking at You and wondering if I can do better. I can never do better than this. If You're wondering if You can do better, then You should tell me and leave.

Anonymous said...

"Thank you for calling/standing near me/being concerned. But I am not here right now. I am somewhere else. And you cannot reach me. Please leave me at the sound of the beep."

they can do better. they deserve someone who doesn't look at them that way.

as i'm fine with you letting me let go. you know i wouldn't have known what to do with you if i would have caught you anyhow.

hiddenconnections said...

Let him do whatever he is doing, you do your bits. Why compare?

hiddenconnections said...

Why compare? Let him do whatever he is doing, you do your bits. Life is no comparisons. Life is a desire. Desire to be with someone.

Anonymous said...

Eh, disagree... due to things like abusive relationships, bigotry, selfishness. If someone's treating you badly, abusing you, or being bigoted towards you, you are in every right to think you deserve something better.

Anonymous said...

All your posts usually make the reader feel good about themselves. Your posts make them feel like they are not alone. Your posts are comforting. They are generic. They are what everyone came to this site for. This post was the opposite. This was not uplifting. This post makes people feel shame. This post makes people hang their heads low. I wont be coming back.

Me said...

If you came here for something generic, then you came to the wrong place. It also shows you haven't really read a lot of what I've written. Sometimes it's comforting, sometimes it's not. That's the way life works and that's what I write about.

This is not an advice column or a hallmark greeting card factory, nor was it ever intended to be.

Anonymous said...

Wow ... these words are beautiful!!! U made me realise the biggest mistake I have been doing in my life.. I have learnt my lessons now..